Every morning at 9:00 AM we’ll gather for appreciations, announcements, and connection. Also, each person will have a brief opportunity (but not a requirement) to check in and share “where they are at.”
New to polyamory? Got questions? “Old hand” at polyamory? Got answers? Join us for this daily skillshare on the promises and perils of diving into ethical, loving non-monogamy! Poly Skill Share will explore many techniques for enhancing our abilities to have rich, satisfying, and durable relationships. Topics will include communication skills, emotional intelligence, love languages, and much more.
We’ll be using the ZEGG Forum daily to bring out what’s under the surface in our community. Forum (http://www.zegg-forum.org/index_en.phtml) was created at ZEGG, an intentional community in Germany, and its sister communities as a way of promoting transparency and mutual understanding among community members. ZEGG members found that decision-making meetings often got derailed because of emotional conflicts and undercurrents that were not known to or understood by all. In Forum, each individual’s experience could be seen and understood, leading to greater empathy and creativity in the community. Now, many residential and non-residential intentional communities have adopted Forum as a way to maintain ongoing connection, intimacy and understanding.
The goal of Forum is to reveal what is alive but not known to all. The community sits in a circle, forming a stage for one person at a time to stand and show what is true for them. Facilitators may assist the person (or “presenter”) to reveal themselves more deeply. Afterward, community members may offer reflections, or “mirrors,” on what they saw.
One of the gifts of ZEGG Forum is that it allows us a space to appreciate every perspective without taking it on as “truth.” Every voice has its own poignancy, its own wisdom, its own truth, that does not negate the wisdom and truth of other perspectives. Allowing all voices to surface and be known can lead to a profound and unexpected integration within a community. We tend to think that events leading to painful experiences and conflicts are bad, because they feel bad in the moment. However, when we open ourselves and compassionately witness what is happening for everyone, these experiences can be gateways to greater closeness, understanding, and love. When conflict emerges, whether or not we are in a formal Forum space, we can choose to listen in this way. This deep listening sustains and nurtures community life and relationships.
The Playspace is a place for structured and unstructured education and exploration of sensual and sexual issues. This space is a resource for those who wish to make use of it; none of the core workshops will take place in the Playspace. There will be an orientation for people interested in using the Playspace on Saturday evening.
The orientation is a brief but effective introduction to the “culture of consent” that underlies most successful poly relationships and helps create the sense of safety and freedom that characterizes all of our events. Required for all campers on the day they arrive; open to all attendees each day.
Who are the people at this gathering? Some of us are excited and nervous newbies, some of us are working through many issues related to polyamory and some of us have arrived at a place of ease in our alternative practices. We’ll spend much of the time moving around, meeting new folks and deepening existing relationships. Let’s find out who’s here and what we have to offer each other!
This workshop combines information on the spiritual teaching and personality model, The Enneagram, with exercises to enhance and integrate your learning. Specific aspects about the Enneagram that will be included, are the Harmonic styles, and the Instincts. The information and exercises in this workshop will help enhance your ability to communicate during difficult conversations with your loved ones. The three Instincts help explain important personality patterns that are highly influential in relationship dynamics. The Enneagram helps us understand the commonalities and uniqueness of each person. It affirms our continuity as humans and honors the preciousness of each individual life. It is a powerful model for understanding self and others, and cultivating deep compassion for both.
Mmm, that glorious moment when we are giving exactly what our partner wants to be receiving! Sometimes we find that “sweet spot” spontaneously—but more often, we find it through clear communication and feedback. How many of us say “yes” to things we don’t actually want out of guilt or a fear of losing connection? In many ways, “no” is the most daring and intimate response possible – if I can hear your “no”, I can trust your “yes.” Let’s practice finding that sweet spot of mutual “yes” —through a series of juicy experiential exercises we’ll offer and/or request touch, negotiate the touch we want, and give verbal and nonverbal feedback on the touch we receive. This practice will serve us well in both sensual and non-sensual contexts, helping us find the space of mutually desired connection that is available with each person.
The Playspace is a warm and inviting space to explore Connection & Intimacy by engaging all of the senses. This is a space to lounge together after spending the day learning communication and intimacy tools – the perfect place to practice communication and share affection in a relaxed and sex positive atmosphere. We will give an introduction to the space and we will practice the “Safe Sex Elevator Speech.”
After the Playspace Orientation, those who wish will proceed to the Playspace for its official opening. All are invited to explore the Playspace – the opening activities will be sensual but nonsexual, and the Playspace Team will create a clear transition when the space becomes open for sexual connection.
How can we deal with the storms of emotion that seem to follow connections of great joy? What does it take to create a relationship that is supportive and appreciative for both partners? What would relationships with others be like if we really were “our own best friend”? The more we do our own personal growth work, which is really about learning to fall in love with ourselves, the more available and loving we become. We no longer approach our partners from a place of need, but from a place of appreciation. Painful emotions become opportunities instead of threats, and positive feelings can come without fear of loss. We are able to take delight in our connections whatever form they might take. The insights and techniques that are shared in this workshop are drawn from many sources, including the facilitators’ polyamorous paths, Eastern spirituality, and hard science. Join us as we discover how we can come to a place of power and choice in how our lives and relationships unfold.
There lives inside of you an ever-burning flame; a noiseless song that your body sings. Have you ever stopped to listen? In this workshop, we will listen deeply to ourselves and others. We will craft dances that exist to be felt, rather than performed. We will play, express, and connect through movement. We will blaze like dancing flames.
Indigo Dawn, Dawson Driver
Who are you? Who am I? Who are we? In this high-energy, interactive workshop, we’ll find out more about the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of everyone present. We will play a number of games aimed at fostering a better understanding of ourselves and others. We’ll explore curiosity and transparency as attitudes and practices that support healthy relationships, whether with lovers, friends, co-workers, or community members. We will practicing honesty and authenticity with others, so that we can learn to be honest and authentic with ourselves. Our time together will develop our empathy, strengthen our community and relationships, and help us gain a better understanding of our true selves.
“There is no such thing as reality; only perception.” — Unknown
We experience the world through the lens of our senses. The flash of a crimson leaf. The burbling of the creek. The scent of woodsmoke. In this workshop, we will cultivate deep surrender through sensory stimulation. We will activate each major sense in isolation– Smell, Sight, Taste, Sound, and Touch– and savor the sheer bliss of sensation.
As our time together comes to a close, we will connect, reflect, say goodbye, and prepare to re-enter the mainstream world. What gifts will we bring with us from Winter Poly Wonderland? What will we create in our lives and communities?
Join in as the group uses Open Space Technology to organize concurrent events inspired by your own passions and interests. Open Sessions are an opportunity for campers to convene dialogue groups on topics they’ve been wanting to explore, or create group massages, or do a music jam together, or much more. Participants are free to move from session to session, honoring their instincts and natural enthusiasm. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Open_Space_Technology