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Program

Winter Poly Wonderland 2018 Program

~Updated Programming for 2019 Coming Soon!~

Morning Circle – daily

Every morning at 9:00 AM we’ll gather for appreciations, announcements, and connection.  Also, each person will have a brief opportunity (but not a requirement) to check in and share “where they are at.”

Community Sharing Circle – daily

We’ll be using the ZEGG Forum daily to bring out what’s under the surface in our community.  Forum (http://www.zegg-forum.org/index_en.phtml) was created at ZEGG, an intentional community in Germany, and its sister communities as a way of promoting transparency and mutual understanding among community members.  ZEGG members found that decision-making meetings often got derailed because of emotional conflicts and undercurrents that were not known to or understood by all.  In Forum, each individual’s experience could be seen and understood, leading to greater empathy and creativity in the community.  Now, many residential and non-residential intentional communities have adopted Forum as a way to maintain ongoing connection, intimacy and understanding.

The goal of Forum is to reveal what is alive but not known to all.  The community sits in a circle, forming a stage for one person at a time to stand and show what is true for them.  Facilitators may assist the person (or “presenter”) to reveal themselves more deeply.  Afterward, community members may offer reflections, or “mirrors,” on what they saw.

One of the gifts of ZEGG Forum is that it allows us a space to appreciate every perspective without taking it on as “truth.” Every voice has its own poignancy, its own wisdom, its own truth, that does not negate the wisdom and truth of other perspectives. Allowing all voices to surface and be known can lead to a profound and unexpected integration within a community. We tend to think that events leading to painful experiences and conflicts are bad, because they feel bad in the moment. However, when we open ourselves and compassionately witness what is happening for everyone, these experiences can be gateways to greater closeness, understanding, and love. When conflict emerges, whether or not we are in a formal Forum space, we can choose to listen in this way.  This deep listening sustains and nurtures community life and relationships.

Sensual Space – Daily

The Playspace is a place for structured and unstructured education and exploration of sensual and sexual issues.  This space is a resource for those who wish to make use of it; none of the core workshops will take place in the Playspace.  There will be an orientation for people interested in using the Playspace on Saturday evening.

Orientation – Daily

The orientation is a brief but effective introduction to the “culture of consent” that underlies most successful poly relationships and helps create the sense of safety and freedom that characterizes all of our events. Required for all campers on the day they arrive; open to all attendees each day.

Orientation and Connection – Friday, Evening

Dawson Driver
Who are the people at this gathering?  Some of us are excited and nervous newbies, some of us are working through many issues related to polyamory and some of us have arrived at a place of ease in our alternative practices.  We’ll spend much of the time moving around, meeting new folks and deepening existing relationships.  Let’s find out who’s here and what we have to offer each other!

 Polyamory Without Drama – Saturday, Morning

Michael Rios

Boundaries: Finding the Sweet Spot – Saturday, Afternoon

Indigo Dawn

Mmm, that glorious moment when we are giving exactly what our partner wants to be receiving! Sometimes we find that “sweet spot” spontaneously—but more often, we find it through clear communication and feedback. How many of us say “yes” to things we don’t actually want out of guilt or a fear of losing connection? In many ways, “no” is the most daring and intimate response possible – if I can hear your “no”, I can trust your “yes.” Let’s practice finding that sweet spot of mutual “yes” —through a series of juicy experiential exercises we’ll offer and/or request touch, negotiate the touch we want, and give verbal and nonverbal feedback on the touch we receive. This practice will serve us well in both sensual and non-sensual contexts, helping us find the space of mutually desired connection that is available with each person.

Wheel of Consent – Saturday, Evening

Indigo Dawn

It’s often apparent when observing physical interactions who is touching and who is being touched. But what happens when we expand and deconstruct the ideas of ‘giving’ and ‘receiving’ touch? It isn’t as straightforward as you might think! In this session, we will be exploring the dynamics of human interaction using touch as a model. We will talk about agreements, pleasure, and the gift of touch. You will learn how to increase awareness of your desires and limits along with how to communicate what you want. At the same time, you will make your own touch into a more present, satisfying and downright delicious experience. And nobody is required to touch another individual in this touch workshop

Sensual Space Orientation and Opening – Saturday, Night

Dawson Driver, Indigo Dawn

The Sensual Space is a warm and inviting space to explore Connection & Intimacy by engaging all of the senses. This is a space to lounge together after spending the day learning communication and intimacy tools – the perfect place to practice communication and share affection in a relaxed and sex positive atmosphere. We will give an introduction to the space and we will practice the “Safe Sex Elevator Speech.”

After the Sensual Spacee Orientation, those who wish will proceed to the Sensual Space for its official opening. All are invited to explore the Sensual Space – the opening activities will be sensual but nonsexual, and the Sensual Space Team will create a clear transition when the space becomes open for sexual connection.

 Group Bonding – Sunday, Morning

Indigo Dawn

The Poly Community – Sunday, Mid Morning

Alan MacRobert

Polyamory has become a trendy topic in the media and mainstream culture — for better and for worse. People who pushed for years to get poly awareness moving now see the bandwagon careening downhill wildly. What should we be doing now? Where should we try to steer the bandwagon? And how?

I’ll facilitate a group discussion, take notes, and share your collected thoughts with Loving More, the Polyamory Leadership Network, and maybe others. Come help steer the bandwagon.

Poly Skill Share – Sunday, Late Morning

Michael Rios

New to polyamory? Got questions? “Old hand” at polyamory? Got answers? Join us for this daily skillshare on the promises and perils of diving into ethical, loving non-monogamy! Poly Skill Share will explore many techniques for enhancing our abilities to have rich, satisfying, and durable relationships. Topics will include communication skills, emotional intelligence, love languages, and much more.

Ecstatic Dance – Sunday, Afternoon

Indigo Dawn

“If you have a body, you are a dancer.”- Gabrielle Roth. Conscious Dance is a movement practice that leads us to open places in ourselves. It is a collective journey that sheds the layers of stress, judgment, and restriction to make space for inner clarity. Stillness. Motion. Intensity. Release. We invite all modes of expression and being.

Authentic Relating Games – Sunday, Evening

Indigo Dawn, Dawson Driver
Who are you? Who am I? Who are we? In this high-energy, interactive workshop, we’ll find out more about the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of everyone present.  We will play a number of games aimed at fostering a better understanding of ourselves and others.  We’ll explore curiosity and transparency as attitudes and practices that support healthy relationships, whether with lovers, friends, co-workers, or community members.  We will practicing honesty and authenticity with others, so that we can learn to be honest and authentic with ourselves.  Our time together will develop our empathy, strengthen our community and relationships, and help us gain a better understanding of our true selves.

Non-Violent Communication – Monday, Morning

Dahlia Morgan

 Offering: An Intro to Non-Violent Communication (NVC), also called Compassionate Communication

NVC is a communication process developed by Marshall Rosenberg beginning in the 1060’s. It focuses on three aspects of communication: self-empathy (defined as a deep and compassionate awareness of one’s own inner experience), empathy (defined as an understanding of the heart in which we see the beauty in the other person), and honest self-expression (defined as expressing oneself authentically in a way that is likely to inspire compassion in others).
NVC is based on the idea that all human beings have the capacity for compassion and only resort to violence or behavior that harms others when they do not recognize more effective strategies for meeting needs. The practice further explores the idea that habits of thinking and speaking that lead to the use of violence (psychological or physical) are learned through culture. NVC theory supposes that all human behavior stems from attempts to meet universal human needs and that these needs are never in conflict. Rather, conflict arises when strategies for meeting needs clash. NVC proposes that if people can identify their needs, the needs of others, and the feelings that surround these needs, harmony can be achieved.
In this workshop we will be teaching the basic precepts and ideas behind NVC, a process of communication designed to improve compassionate connection to others and giving demonstrations of it’s use, with a focus on how we can bring the parts of this idea that best serve us into our every day lives.

Completion Circle

As our time together comes to a close, we will connect, reflect, say goodbye, and prepare to re-enter the mainstream world.  What gifts will we bring with us from Winter Poly Wonderland?  What will we create in our lives and communities?

Open Sessions

Join in as the group uses Open Space Technology to organize concurrent events inspired by your own passions and interests. Open Sessions are an opportunity for campers to convene dialogue groups on topics they’ve been wanting to explore, or create group massages, or do a music jam together, or much more. Participants are free to move from session to session, honoring their instincts and natural enthusiasm.  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Open_Space_Technology